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Do you drive your relationship?

It’s amazing that the most intelligent and successful women can still end up single. Successful women normally have the role of taking charge and getting things done! This may work in career but can pose a threat in relationships. The frustration comes when she has done everything to help the person she cares about and still that person finds no interest in her. What is wrong with the guy she is dating?

As much as most women think that being attractive and successful have everything to do with keeping a man, it isn’t the case. Men do rely on a physical level for attraction but this is only temporary. What really gets a man hooked is a woman that understands the way men think. The biggest mistake women make is think that men should think like women. So when a man finally meets a woman that gets him, he feels like this woman has connected with him on a whole different level.

Did you know that 74% of men rather feel unloved and alone than disrespected? Does this make any sense? Consider the two as different species mainly because men seek respect and women seek security. As women we can make the mistake by taking on the masculine trait and find ourselves driving the relationship. This can be a major turn off for men because it puts them into a feminine role. Unless he wants to be in the feminine role, you may make him feel very disrespected. I challenge you to pay attention to your current and past relationships, what kind of energy do you put out to the dating world?

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