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What Happens When You Stop Chasing an Avoidant

August 11, 2026

I've worked with countless singles over the years, and there's one story I hear more than almost any other: "I finally stopped chasing him... and everything changed." Sometimes it changes for the better. Sometimes it doesn't. But almost always, it changes you, and that's really what I want to talk about today. If you've ever loved someone avoidant, you know the dance. They pull close, you lean in. They pull back, you panic and reach further. It's exhausting, it's confusing, and if you're anything like my clients[...]

woman sad looking down as she is fighting with her partner

Why Relationships Fail at 3 Months (And Here’s What to Do)

July 6, 2026

I've sat across from hundreds of clients over the years, and I can tell you that if your relationships keep ending right around the three-month mark, you are living out one of the most common patterns I see in my practice. It happens so often that I've started calling it "the 90-day block." You meet someone. It feels exciting. You're already picturing the future. And then, almost on schedule, the three-month mark rolls around, and something shifts. The excitement fades out. The calls begin to drop off. The dates[...]

Why So Many High Achievers Attract Emotionally Unavailable Partners

June 17, 2026

I've been there, sat across from someone who checked every box on paper, felt that amazing attraction, and completely ignored the red flags waving right in front of my face. I've found myself confused about why I could achieve so much in my career, yet when it came to love, I was completely clueless. And I've watched my clients, brilliant doctors, attorneys, CEOs, and entrepreneurs, do the exact same thing, wondering why the one area of life they can't seem to figure out is the one that matters most to their hea[...]

That Instant Spark? It Might Be a Red Flag.

May 28, 2026

I know what it feels like to meet someone and think, "This is it. This is the one." The electricity. The feeling that you've known each other forever. I've been there, and I've had to learn the hard way that instant chemistry doesn't always mean what we hope it does. Over the years, as a dating coach and through my own personal journey in love. I've seen the same pattern play out over and over again. People fall fast, fall hard, and then fall apart. And they can't understand why, because it felt so right at the[...]