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11 Signs of Gaslighting in a Relationship + How You Can Stop It

February 24, 2021

My husband and I have been married for almost 8-years now and I’m very thankful for our relationship, but sometimes when I am coaching my clients I find my mind wandering back to my previous life as a struggling single. Most recently this happened when I was coaching a client who was working through some major issues she developed from a recent breakup with a boyfriend who was gaslighting her throughout her relationship. For those of you not familiar with the term “gaslighting”, it is a form[...]

5 Green Flags to Look For When Dating Someone New

February 2, 2021

Not everyone knows what good looks like in a relationship. A lot of people have grown up in environments where they never saw what ingredients are necessary to create lasting love between partners. Unfortunately, if you have never experienced what a good, healthy relationship looks like it can be nearly impossible to replicate those dynamics in your own love life. That is why I am sharing what green flags to look out for in a prospective partner that signals they are a keeper. Please keep in mind that love is a two[...]

trauma bond couple fighting and yelling at each other

How to Recognize and Break Free from a Trauma Bond Relationship

January 25, 2021

I am going to start this article by letting you know that I have a past that is chocked full of times of extreme trauma. The details of which I won’t get into for this article, but let’s just say that as a child and also as a young woman, traumatic events seemed to rain over my life in a way that made me feel like I had my own personal thunder cloud living over my head. This trauma greatly affected my relationships, both romantic and platonic, and caused me years of pain and inner turmoil. I often blamed mys[...]

4 Tips: What if I Want to Date a Co-worker?

January 19, 2021

Many people meet their partners at work. After all, when people spend a lot of time together, collaborating on projects, and having open vulnerable conversations, there is a good chance that romantic relationships will develop. However, if you are interested in someone at work it is important to be very intentional and careful about the way you go about pursuing someone you work with. Some companies have explicit policies that forbid colleagues from dating. As with any romantic relationship, make sure you only pu[...]