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Breadcrumbing in Dating: 5 Warning Signs & How to Stop It

December 20, 2024

You stare at your phone, your heart jumping at the notification. After three days of silence, there it is – that familiar "hey, thinking of you" text. Deep down, you know this pattern. Just enough attention to keep you hoping, but never enough to build something real. You're experiencing what's known as "breadcrumbing" – the modern dating equivalent of leaving a trail of breadcrumbs that lead nowhere. The Signs You're Being Breadcrumbed Does this sound familiar? You've been texting someone for weeks, maybe ev[...]

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6 Warning Signs You’re Dating Someone Avoidant

November 13, 2024

I used to be drawn to them like a moth to a flame - those mysterious, emotionally distant people who kept me wondering if they'd ever truly let me in. As someone who deeply feared abandonment, I found myself repeatedly attracted to partners with avoidant attachment styles. The irony? In trying to avoid being left, I kept choosing people who were emotionally unavailable. The pattern was painfully familiar: I'd meet someone who seemed perfect on the surface - successful, attentive (at first), and often incredibly ch[...]

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When and How to Share Your Boundaries in Dating

August 13, 2024

As a dating coach, one of the most common questions I hear is, "When should I speak up about my boundaries, and how do I do it effectively?" Setting and communicating boundaries is crucial for building healthy, respectful relationships. Let's explore the best timing and methods for sharing your boundaries with a potential partner. The Boundary Struggle Is Real First things first, let's acknowledge that setting boundaries can feel really uncomfortable. You might worry about coming across as too demanding or pushin[...]

Dating Deal-Breakers: Green Flags You Should Never Compromise

May 23, 2024

Many of us have become experts at identifying red flags, but it's equally crucial to recognize and prioritize the qualities that contribute to a healthy, happy partnership. Today we'll explore the key green flags that lay the foundation for a strong, supportive, and blissful relationship. From emotional intelligence and effective communication to shared values and genuine interest in your well-being, I'll dive deep into the characteristics that truly matter when building a lasting connection. You'll learn how to[...]