What is self-sabotage in relationships and why do people do it? Self-sabotage is when a person, consciously or subconsciously, engages in acts that destroy, ruin, or diminish the relationships they are in. In essence, the obstacles in the relationship are self-created. Why people sabotage relationships is a little more complex. For some, it could be a deep fear of intimacy, vulnerability, or abandonment, for others it may be a repeating of old patterns or imposter syndrome. Discovering why is at the root of ending[...]
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Have you found that you attract narcissists, predators, manipulators, and/or other toxic personalities like bees to honey? Sadly, none of these traits are qualities found in loving and supportive partners or friends. The good news is: there are ways you can eliminate and repel these toxic people from your life at the door by changing how you represent yourself and stopping people-pleasing. While setting boundaries and unlearning the learned behavior that is making you an easy target for boundary pushers takes pr[...]
The subtle brush of the knee, holding hands, touching an arm, these gestures have long been cornerstones of flirting. But how do singles flirt in a way that’s not only social distance friendly but often virtual like on zoom or FaceTime? If you are struggling to connect without the use of touch, which is so important to most of us, have no fear as I will walk you through new ways to flirt with your love interest/s. Flirting without touching may be challenging, but my solution will not only up your flirt game, it w[...]
It is normal to be nervous for a first date. After all, you are meeting someone new with the hopes that it might lead to a romantic connection. Yet, no matter how much planning you do or how excited you are, many singles still make common mistakes that kill their chances for a second date. Have no fear, whether it’s nerves or a bad habit, these red flag behaviors are fixable so long as you are conscious of them and intentional in your actions once you are on the physical date with your romantic prospect. If you w[...]