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How Childhood Trauma May Affect Your Dating Choices

October 31, 2020

I consider myself a very honest and authentic person, both in my personal and my professional life. There is one thing about me that I rarely share even to the people closest to me. That is the amount of trauma I experienced growing up. This wasn’t just the typical childhood stuff that many people have experienced, my trauma came in the form of physical, mental, and emotional abuse at the hands of one of the people I looked up to the most. And unfortunately, not until I was willing to look head-on at my trauma,[...]

How to Avoid Narcissists, Predators, and Manipulators

September 30, 2020

Have you found that you attract narcissists, predators, manipulators, and/or other toxic personalities like bees to honey? Sadly, none of these traits are qualities found in loving and supportive partners or friends. The good news is: there are ways you can eliminate and repel these toxic people from your life at the door by changing how you represent yourself and stopping people-pleasing. While setting boundaries and unlearning the learned behavior that is making you an easy target for boundary pushers takes pr[...]

How to Flirt Without Touching

September 29, 2020

The subtle brush of the knee, holding hands, touching an arm, these gestures have long been cornerstones of flirting. But how do singles flirt in a way that’s not only social distance friendly but often virtual like on zoom or FaceTime? If you are struggling to connect without the use of touch, which is so important to most of us, have no fear as I will walk you through new ways to flirt with your love interest/s. Flirting without touching may be challenging, but my solution will not only up your flirt game, it w[...]

How to Control Your Emotions, So They Don’t Control You

September 28, 2020

Dealing with difficult emotions can be, well, difficult. For various reasons, whether it’s faulty programming or toxic positivity, many people struggle with processing hard emotions like: sadness, grief, rejection, apathy, uncertainty, heartbreak, fear, etc. However, we all need to learn how to work through emotions both good and bad in order to be at ease with ourselves. The only way to get over something is to go through it. In this guide, I will walk you through what it takes to recognize and process psycholo[...]