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6 Warning Signs You’re Dating Someone Avoidant

November 13, 2024

I used to be drawn to them like a moth to a flame - those mysterious, emotionally distant people who kept me wondering if they'd ever truly let me in. As someone who deeply feared abandonment, I found myself repeatedly attracted to partners with avoidant attachment styles. The irony? In trying to avoid being left, I kept choosing people who were emotionally unavailable. The pattern was painfully familiar: I'd meet someone who seemed perfect on the surface - successful, attentive (at first), and often incredibly ch[...]

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How to Stop the Fear of Abandonment from Ruining Your Dating Life

October 30, 2024

Your heart races every time they take too long to respond. You find yourself analyzing every slight change in their tone, every shift in their texting pattern, every canceled plan. That pit in your stomach grows deeper with each passing hour of silence. I want you to know something important: You're not being "too sensitive" or "too needy." Your feelings are valid, and there's a reason your heart guards itself so carefully. Let's talk about what's really happening when those abandonment fears surface in dating.[...]

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Hidden Reasons You’re Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners (And How to Stop)

October 1, 2024

Have you ever found yourself in a pattern of attracting partners who seem unable to fully commit or connect emotionally? If this sounds all too familiar, I want you to know that you're not alone. I've been exactly where you are, caught in that frustrating cycle of almost-relationships and unfulfilled connections. But here's the good news: there's a way out. It wasn't until I started facing my own negative patterns that my love life began to change for the better. Everything I'm about to share with you is what I[...]

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How to Be Vulnerable: 5 Behaviors That Build Trust, Intimacy, and Connection

August 22, 2024

Do you ever feel like your thoughts and feelings are locked away, just out of reach? I know that feeling all too well. Growing up in my culture, where vulnerability was seen as a weakness, I learned to keep my inner world tightly guarded. It felt safer that way, but it also left me feeling isolated and disconnected. Maybe you can relate to that struggle - the desire to open up, balanced against the fear of being judged or hurt. It's a delicate dance, isn't it? But here's what I've learned on my journey: vulnerabil[...]

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Here’s the truth about attachment styles that I wish someone had told me sooner: they’re not your permanent sentence.

In my recent interview with @fountain_hrt , we dove deep into this myth that your attachment style is just who you are forever. But here’s what I’ve learned and what the research actually shows…attachment styles can absolutely change when both people are willing to do the inner work.

I used to think I was just “anxiously attached” and that was it. That my partner was “avoidant” and we were doomed to this endless cycle. But when we both started looking inward, doing our own healing, and showing up differently for each other, something beautiful happened. We started creating new patterns together.

It’s not easy work. It means sitting with your triggers instead of reacting from them. It means your partner doing the same. It means having those uncomfortable conversations and choosing connection over being right. But it’s possible.

Your nervous system learned these patterns to protect you, and with patience and intention, it can learn new ones too. You’re not broken. Your relationship isn’t doomed. Change is possible when you’re both willing to grow.

#AttachmentTheory #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipHealing #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantAttachment #SecureAttachment #RelationshipGrowth #HealingTogether #RelationshipTherapy #AttachmentHealing #MentalHealthAwareness #RelationshipTips #HealingJourney #FountainHRT #RelationshipGoals #PersonalGrowth #CouplesTherapy #AttachmentTrauma #LoveAndHealing
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Here’s the truth about attachment styles that I wish someone had told me sooner: they’re not your permanent sentence. In my recent interview with @fountain_hrt , we dove deep into this myth that your attachment style is just who you are forever. But here’s what I’ve learned and what the research actually shows…attachment styles can absolutely change when both people are willing to do the inner work. I used to think I was just “anxiously attached” and that was it. That my partner was “avoidant” and we were doomed to this endless cycle. But when we both started looking inward, doing our own healing, and showing up differently for each other, something beautiful happened. We started creating new patterns together. It’s not easy work. It means sitting with your triggers instead of reacting from them. It means your partner doing the same. It means having those uncomfortable conversations and choosing connection over being right. But it’s possible. Your nervous system learned these patterns to protect you, and with patience and intention, it can learn new ones too. You’re not broken. Your relationship isn’t doomed. Change is possible when you’re both willing to grow. #AttachmentTheory #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipHealing #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantAttachment #SecureAttachment #RelationshipGrowth #HealingTogether #RelationshipTherapy #AttachmentHealing #MentalHealthAwareness #RelationshipTips #HealingJourney #FountainHRT #RelationshipGoals #PersonalGrowth #CouplesTherapy #AttachmentTrauma #LoveAndHealing
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Here’s something I want you to know: Love doesn’t have an expiration date. ❤️ I share my personal experiences with @fountain_hrt 

I don’t care if you’re 25, 45, 65, or beyond…your heart is just as capable of love as it ever was. Each chapter of your life brings something beautiful to the table.

Stop listening to people who say you’ve “missed your chance.” That’s nonsense. All those experiences you’ve had? They’re not holding you back - they’re making you better at love. You know yourself now. You know what matters.

So keep your heart open. Stay hopeful. Trust me on this one - it’s never too late. 💕

#LoveAtAnyAge #NeverTooLate #LoveStory #Relationships #Hope #SelfLove #Dating #LoveIsLove #Inspiration #HeartOpen
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Here’s something I want you to know: Love doesn’t have an expiration date. ❤️ I share my personal experiences with @fountain_hrt I don’t care if you’re 25, 45, 65, or beyond…your heart is just as capable of love as it ever was. Each chapter of your life brings something beautiful to the table. Stop listening to people who say you’ve “missed your chance.” That’s nonsense. All those experiences you’ve had? They’re not holding you back - they’re making you better at love. You know yourself now. You know what matters. So keep your heart open. Stay hopeful. Trust me on this one - it’s never too late. 💕 #LoveAtAnyAge #NeverTooLate #LoveStory #Relationships #Hope #SelfLove #Dating #LoveIsLove #Inspiration #HeartOpen
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If you’re constantly wondering where you stand with someone, feeling like you’re the only one putting in emotional effort, or making excuses for why they can’t show up for you… that’s your cue to pause and reflect.

Here’s what conscious dating taught me:

✨ Notice the patterns early- Are they consistent with their words AND actions? Or do you find yourself analyzing mixed signals?

✨Your emotional needs aren’t “too much”- Wanting deep conversations, genuine connection, and emotional presence is normal and healthy

✨ Stop trying to earn basic respect- The right person won’t make you feel like you’re auditioning for their love

✨ Trust your gut- If something feels off, it probably is. Your intuition is protecting you

You deserve someone who’s excited to know your heart, not someone who treats your emotions like they’re inconvenient. Period.

What’s one boundary you’ve set in dating that changed everything for you? Drop it below 👇

#ConsciousDating #EmotionalAvailability #DatingTips #SelfWorth #Boundaries #HealthyRelationships #DatingAdvice #LoveYourself #RelationshipGoals #MindfulDating #SelfLove #Dating2025 #EmotionalIntelligence #KnowYourWorth #RelationshipBoundaries
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If you’re constantly wondering where you stand with someone, feeling like you’re the only one putting in emotional effort, or making excuses for why they can’t show up for you… that’s your cue to pause and reflect. Here’s what conscious dating taught me: ✨ Notice the patterns early- Are they consistent with their words AND actions? Or do you find yourself analyzing mixed signals? ✨Your emotional needs aren’t “too much”- Wanting deep conversations, genuine connection, and emotional presence is normal and healthy ✨ Stop trying to earn basic respect- The right person won’t make you feel like you’re auditioning for their love ✨ Trust your gut- If something feels off, it probably is. Your intuition is protecting you You deserve someone who’s excited to know your heart, not someone who treats your emotions like they’re inconvenient. Period. What’s one boundary you’ve set in dating that changed everything for you? Drop it below 👇 #ConsciousDating #EmotionalAvailability #DatingTips #SelfWorth #Boundaries #HealthyRelationships #DatingAdvice #LoveYourself #RelationshipGoals #MindfulDating #SelfLove #Dating2025 #EmotionalIntelligence #KnowYourWorth #RelationshipBoundaries
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As a dating coach who’s worked with thousands of clients over the years, I can tell you that the three-month relationship pattern is one of the most common issues I see.⁠
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You meet someone, everything feels magical, and you’re convinced this could be “the one.” Then, like clockwork, around month three, something shifts. The spark fades, doubts creep in, and before you know it, you’re single again, wondering what went wrong.⁠
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If this sounds like your dating story on repeat, I want you to know that you’re not broken, and you’re definitely not alone.⁠
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There are very real psychological and biological reasons why this keeps happening, and once you understand them, you can start making different choices.⁠
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Read the full article to discover what is literally working against you in early stages of dating (and how to outsmart it) ⁠
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https://amiethedatingcoach.com/why-relationships-end-at-3-months-and-what-to-do/⁠
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#3monthfizzle #relationshipbreakup #datingpattern #threemonthpattern #breakthecycle #datingadvice #datingtips
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As a dating coach who’s worked with thousands of clients over the years, I can tell you that the three-month relationship pattern is one of the most common issues I see.⁠ ⁠ You meet someone, everything feels magical, and you’re convinced this could be “the one.” Then, like clockwork, around month three, something shifts. The spark fades, doubts creep in, and before you know it, you’re single again, wondering what went wrong.⁠ ⁠ If this sounds like your dating story on repeat, I want you to know that you’re not broken, and you’re definitely not alone.⁠ ⁠ There are very real psychological and biological reasons why this keeps happening, and once you understand them, you can start making different choices.⁠ ⁠ Read the full article to discover what is literally working against you in early stages of dating (and how to outsmart it) ⁠ ⁠ https://amiethedatingcoach.com/why-relationships-end-at-3-months-and-what-to-do/⁠ ⁠ #3monthfizzle #relationshipbreakup #datingpattern #threemonthpattern #breakthecycle #datingadvice #datingtips
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Happy 13th Anniversary to us! 🎉❤️

Thirteen years ago, we promised each other a lifetime of love and adventure and wow, have we delivered on that promise!

We’ve proven that the best journeys are the ones we take hand in hand, and the most beautiful memories are the ones we create together.

Here’s to 13 amazing years of marriage and a love that keeps growing stronger with every new experience we share. Thank you for being my favorite adventure partner, my best friend, and the love of my life. 🫶

Every love story is beautiful, but ours is my absolute favorite! 💕

Cheers to us and to all the incredible memories still waiting for us! 🥂✨​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

#13yearsstrong #13thanniversary #anniversarypost #marriedlife #loveofmylife #adventurepartner #soulmate #myforever #husbandandwife #marriagegoals
Happy 13th Anniversary to us! 🎉❤️

Thirteen years ago, we promised each other a lifetime of love and adventure and wow, have we delivered on that promise!

We’ve proven that the best journeys are the ones we take hand in hand, and the most beautiful memories are the ones we create together.

Here’s to 13 amazing years of marriage and a love that keeps growing stronger with every new experience we share. Thank you for being my favorite adventure partner, my best friend, and the love of my life. 🫶

Every love story is beautiful, but ours is my absolute favorite! 💕

Cheers to us and to all the incredible memories still waiting for us! 🥂✨​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

#13yearsstrong #13thanniversary #anniversarypost #marriedlife #loveofmylife #adventurepartner #soulmate #myforever #husbandandwife #marriagegoals
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Happy 13th Anniversary to us! 🎉❤️ Thirteen years ago, we promised each other a lifetime of love and adventure and wow, have we delivered on that promise! We’ve proven that the best journeys are the ones we take hand in hand, and the most beautiful memories are the ones we create together. Here’s to 13 amazing years of marriage and a love that keeps growing stronger with every new experience we share. Thank you for being my favorite adventure partner, my best friend, and the love of my life. 🫶 Every love story is beautiful, but ours is my absolute favorite! 💕 Cheers to us and to all the incredible memories still waiting for us! 🥂✨​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ #13yearsstrong #13thanniversary #anniversarypost #marriedlife #loveofmylife #adventurepartner #soulmate #myforever #husbandandwife #marriagegoals
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