Is He Playing Me? Signs of a Manipulative Relationship
Manipulative partners are experts at controlling their partners and making them feel like they are the one who is at fault. If you are in a manipulative relationship, chances are you are not even aware of it. Your partner has likely been manipulating you from the very beginning. They may have gaslighted you, made false promises, or taken advantage of your vulnerabilities.
If you suspect that you are being manipulated, here are some signs to look out for.
You Feel like You’re Walking on Eggshells around Your Partner.
You never know what will set them off and you’re constantly trying to avoid their anger. If you’re living in a constant state of fear, it’s time to get help. It’s not healthy for you or your relationship to be in this type of environment. No one deserves to be treated that way. In my Conscious Dating Programs, I have clients make a list of their non-negotiables. Knowing your non-negotiables helps you get clear on whether your values really align with your partner or not. It is important to find someone who loves and respects you for who you are and wants to make you feel safe.
They Put their Needs First and Ignore Yours.
It can be difficult to have a partner who always puts themselves up on a pedestal and makes you feel inferior. When you do speak up they tell you that you are too much or too sensitive. You may start to doubt your judgment and feel like you can’t do anything right.
But it’s important to remember that you are just as worthy as they are and that you deserve respect. Learn to set boundaries with this person and make yourself a priority. When you do, you’ll find that the relationship becomes much more healthy and balanced for both of you.
Your Partner is Extremely Controlling.
They want to control every aspect of your life, from what you wear to whom you talk to. An example is to ask your partner permission to do everyday things. You shouldn’t be giving up your autonomy in an everyday relationship.
It is essential to take small steps to develop your independence, like standing up for yourself and refusing to ask permission for everyday things, which will help you regain your autonomy. Remember that you deserve to be happy and in control of your own life. (Article Continues Below).
You have Lost Yourself in the Relationship.
You no longer know who you are or what you want in life. It can be hard to break free from a relationship that has taken over your life. You may feel like you have lost yourself and don’t know how to start living again.
The good news is, it is possible. You can find yourself again by starting new hobbies or traveling alone. These activities will help you learn how to create independence and discover who you are outside of the relationship. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help during this time – friends and family members want to see your life back!
Your Partner is Threatening or Openly Bullying You
No one deserves to be treated this way. It’s time to set some boundaries. Let them know that this behavior is unacceptable and is not tolerated. You deserve to be in a healthy, supportive relationship where both partners respect each other.
If your partner refuses to change their ways after communicating your feelings, it may be time to consider ending the relationship.
Ending a relationship is never easy, but if you are constantly feeling scared, intimidated, or belittled by your partner, it’s probably time for things to come to an end.
Everything is Always Your Fault According to Your Partner.
You can never do anything right no matter what. If your partner is always putting the blame on you, it can be really tough to have a healthy relationship. It’s important to build up your self-worth and learn how to speak up for yourself.
Don’t let someone else control how you feel about yourself. When you start to recognize that these toxic relationships are not good for you, it will empower you to make changes in your life – like seeking out coaching and therapy. You are worth fighting for!
If you are currently in a manipulative or abusive relationship, please seek help from a local domestic violence shelter or organization. You are not alone and there is help available.
Ending domestic violence is a community effort. If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, please reach out for help at the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. You are not alone.
If you are experiencing any of these signs, it’s time to consider getting out of the relationship. Manipulative partners will never change and they will only try to continue to control and hurt you.
The best thing you can do is walk away and start fresh with someone new. Don’t let a manipulative partner ruin your life – stand up for yourself and end the relationship before it’s too late. If you need support, I’m here to help. Schedule a Free Relationship Readiness Review with me here.