5 Powerful Dating Questions that Attract Quality Singles
Questions are the gateway to getting to know anyone new in your life, and prospective online dates are no exception. Although online dating offers many advantages to conventional dating, getting to know someone through circuitry and motherboards can be both a stressful and daunting task.
Because of this, it is so much better for you and your dating life to ask questions quickly and efficiently as possible. This way you don’t waste time with the sucky dates and maximize your time with the good ones.
Whether it is in email, text, or voice form, there are a few good rules of thumb to consider in the online dating question game.
- Always ask open-ended questions: “Yes” and “No” answers are fine, but they rarely dig deep and get you a true understanding of the other person. So ask questions that allow them to expand their answers and give you the most bang for your question buck.
- Don’t send a long list of questions: Firing a machine gun’s worth of questions at someone will often make you look calculated and rigid while putting the other party on the defensive, so make sure you ask your questions sparingly and over multiple communications.
- Don’t sound scripted: Nobody wants to feel like you are asking questions that you ask every guy or girl who comes through the door. Ask your questions in different ways to different people and always make sure it comes in the general flow of the interaction.
- Don’t ask questions you would not ask yourself: This should go without saying, but if you want someone to be authentic and transparent with you, then you should plan to be the same. So ask your questions and know your answers too, because when it comes to the love questioning game, turnabout is fair play.
So here are five dating questions that will attract quality singles into your life!
- What did you like most about my profile?
This should be a question asked right off the online dating bat. It’s a great way to not only make sure there is a real person on the other end (not a robot) who has a genuine interest in you, but it also gives you an understanding of what they like about you.
If he or she can’t answer the question in a simple, but genuine and engaging way, then you can move on to someone who can.
- What are you looking for in a relationship?
If you are looking for love, you don’t want to spend time talking to someone who is just looking for a few laughs or a casual hookup. Make sure you ask this question and if you like the answer, to follow up with more questions down the road that test this. Remember, it is very easy to say you are looking for love, but it is much harder to show it.
- What’s your most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to you?
In my Conscious Dating Programs, I teach about the power of Vulnerability This means that you allow yourself to be truly authentic and honest with those around you, and can readily show the soft tender underbelly that can expose who you really are.
This simple question tests the prospective dater by not only asking something that may lead to a fun and/or interesting story but also allows you to see if the person is vulnerable enough to answer it truthfully.
- What does your perfect weekend morning look like?
This question is designed to not only get to know them a little better but also to see if the two of you are compatible in lifestyle and/or values. If you get an answer like, “I work all weekend” and you do not, that is something important to know.
Or if you get an answer like “I get up early, ride my motorcycle to the gun range, then eat some tofu burgers”, well, you learned a lot about the person and can gauge if this is a person who you may want to spend your future weekends with.
- What is your relationship with your family like and how often do you see them?
If you are like me, family is very important to you. So I feel it is very important that you understand a little about the person on the other end and the relationship with their family.
If, for example, they say they “I have a great relationship with my family, but only see them once every two years.”, that is something to you want to clarify because the two don’t usually go hand in hand.
But if there’s any dysfunction in their family… it does make sense that they do stay away (it’s for you to determine). The bottom line is you can tell a lot about a person and their values based on how they interact with their family.
One last thing before I send you back into the online dating world. Questions are simply another form of communication that, when accompanied by active listening and processing will help you make better choices in your dating life.
So make sure you understand exactly what you want and need in a relationship to make you happy and then you will never have to question yourself and your dating choices again.