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Early Relationship Red Flags: 10 Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore

January 25, 2022

Knowing when things are going too fast in a new relationship can be challenging. You might not even realize that you're dating someone who is potentially bad for you until it's too late. It's essential to be aware of these early dating red flags: the signs that something may not be right with your partner can help save your heart and time. We will discuss 10 red flags to look out for in a new relationship. If you recognize any of these red flag signs, it may be time to end things before they get too serious. 1[...]

Signs of Breadcrumming in Dating & How to Stop It

May 11, 2021

"Breadcrumming aka Breadcrumbing" is when someone sends out flirty, but non-committal digital morsels (i.e. "breadcrumbs'') in order to lure in a romantic partner without showing much follow-through. In other words, breadcrumbing is the modern-day version of leading someone on. What makes it modern is that these breadcrumbs often show up utilizing technology like a romantic prospect liking lots of your social media posts or sending sporadic DMs or late-night texts for booty calls. However, when that moment come[...]

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8 Signs: How to Spot an Emotionally Unavailable Partner

March 23, 2021

As we navigate the dating world, there are many things we look for in a potential partner. Things like looks, a sense of humor, honesty, and intelligence all come to mind. Although each of these is all great qualities to have in a partner, there's one quality not on that list that is missing that should negate the importance of any of them to you. I'm referring to whether or not your partner is emotionally available or not. In simplest terms, when you’re emotionally available you’re open to discussing you[...]

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Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners that cheat? How can I stop this?

March 1, 2021

Recently I opened my email box and found something unexpected and exciting. It was an email from one of my former clients, letting me know how happy he was and how in love he was with an incredible woman. (For privacy reasons I will refer to him by the pseudonym John.) In the email, John included a photo of himself cheek to cheek with his new love. The happy couple exuded happiness and joy in every way. The email made me tear up not just about John’s happiness and new relationship, but also about the incredibl[...]