Narcissistic Abuse Archives

11 Signs of Gaslighting in a Relationship + How You Can Stop It

February 24, 2021

My husband and I have been married for almost 8-years now and I’m very thankful for our relationship, but sometimes when I am coaching my clients I find my mind wandering back to my previous life as a struggling single. Most recently this happened when I was coaching a client who was working through some major issues she developed from a recent breakup with a boyfriend who was gaslighting her throughout her relationship. For those of you not familiar with the term “gaslighting”, it is a form[...]

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How to Recognize and Break Free from a Trauma Bond Relationship

January 25, 2021

I am going to start this article by letting you know that I have a past that is chocked full of times of extreme trauma. The details of which I won’t get into for this article, but let’s just say that as a child and also as a young woman, traumatic events seemed to rain over my life in a way that made me feel like I had my own personal thunder cloud living over my head. This trauma greatly affected my relationships, both romantic and platonic, and caused me years of pain and inner turmoil. I often blamed mys[...]

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What is Love Bombing? 4 Signs You Should Not Ignore!

January 12, 2021

How come so many intelligent and well-adjusted people fall for this? Unfortunately, for the person in this situation, the Love Bomber techniques work off the human need to be loved and desired. The feelings one gets from being coveted by a Love Bomber can be so intense and powerful that it's kin to being drawn in by some invisible force field.

Three Ways to Learn From Your Exes

August 26, 2019

One of the biggest mistakes singles make is letting their past relationships affect their present and future ones. Most don’t realize that there’s real value in the overall experiences of their past relationships and growth that can come from it. In fairness, I completely understand how it can be hard to look positively at these emotional times, which may include moments of unhappiness, heartache, and even sheer anger. Last week I received a message from one of our conscious daters that I think a lot of sing[...]