Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who showered you with constant affection, gifts, and attention, only for the relationship to end abruptly, leaving you feeling confused and heartbroken? This is a common pattern in a love bomber – someone who uses grand romantic gestures and excessive attention to control and manipulate their partner. Despite the damaging effects of these relationships, many of us find ourselves attracted to love bombers without even realizing it. In this video, we explor[...]
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Red Flags
First dates can bring up a host of emotions, especially when you’re not sure what to expect. Whether you’re dating for the first time in years or just starting to explore the dating world, it can be an emotionally triggering experience. However, there are signs that you can pay attention to that will help you identify whether your date is a keeper. These are the green flags to out for in the early stages of dating. Green flags are signs that a person is worth your time and potentially worth pursuing a relati[...]
When I talk about boundaries with clients that struggle with people pleasing or perfectionism, I can see their faces clench up. They get uncomfortable because somewhere, they were taught that having boundaries is being needy versus having needs. As a recovering perfectionist, I get it. But that thinking is far from the truth! Without boundaries, you lose your voice and your inability to get your needs met. It's essential to approach dating with a clear head and a strong sense of self. This means understandin[...]
When it comes to dating, love and relationships, it can be difficult to differentiate between a real connection and trauma bonding. Trauma bonding is when two people are emotionally attached in unhealthy ways due to the euphoric high of extreme highs and lows associated with ongoing conflict or drama. It’s not uncommon for people to engage in this non-beneficial behavior because they may fall into the same patterns unknowingly -- mistaking the feeling of being “drawn together” as indicating a true connecti[...]