Self Esteem Archives

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Why We Self-Sabotage Love and How to Break the Cycle

October 15, 2026

Let's talk about something I see all the time with the singles I work with. And honestly? Something I lived for years myself. You say you want love. You mean it. You're dating, you're putting yourself out there, and then someone great comes along. They're kind. They're consistent. They actually show up. And suddenly, something in you starts looking for the exit. Maybe you lose interest out of nowhere. Or you pick a fight right when things are going well. You might even keep choosing people who can't fully[...]

Love Bombing vs. Genuine Interest: How to Know the Difference

September 2, 2026

Back in the day before I became a happily married woman and a dating coach, like many of you out there, I fell for love bombing. Not because I was naive. Not because I didn’t know better. Because it worked on me the way it works on so many smart, self-aware, emotionally healthy singles. It felt like the chemistry I’d been waiting for. And it always, always fizzled around the three-month mark, right after they’d gotten their grip on me. That’s the part nobody tells you about love bombing. Whether the[...]

6 Personality Traits That Make You More Attractive

August 19, 2026

I've coached hundreds of people through their dating lives, and I can tell you with total confidence: the people who consistently attract healthy, lasting connections are not the ones with the "perfect" look. What makes a person attractive is how they show up. Attraction goes so much deeper than a jawline or a great hair blowout. It's a felt sense, an energy, a way of being in the world that makes someone else think, "I want to be around this person." So let's get into it. Here are the six personality traits[...]

That Instant Spark? It Might Be a Red Flag.

May 28, 2026

I know what it feels like to meet someone and think, "This is it. This is the one." The electricity. The feeling that you've known each other forever. I've been there, and I've had to learn the hard way that instant chemistry doesn't always mean what we hope it does. Over the years, as a dating coach and through my own personal journey in love. I've seen the same pattern play out over and over again. People fall fast, fall hard, and then fall apart. And they can't understand why, because it felt so right at the[...]