Self Esteem Archives

That Instant Spark? It Might Be a Red Flag.

May 28, 2026

I know what it feels like to meet someone and think, "This is it. This is the one." The electricity. The feeling that you've known each other forever. I've been there, and I've had to learn the hard way that instant chemistry doesn't always mean what we hope it does. Over the years, as a dating coach and through my own personal journey in love. I've seen the same pattern play out over and over again. People fall fast, fall hard, and then fall apart. And they can't understand why, because it felt so right at the[...]

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7 Green Flag Signs You’re Truly Ready for Love (And Not Just Settling)

May 5, 2026

There was a time in my life when I thought I was ready for love. I had my fair share of therapy, I was showing up to dates with a smile, and I told myself I had done the work. But looking back? I wasn't ready. Therapy helped me understand my emotional wounds (I'm grateful for it), but I still needed more work. It didn't show me who I was in a relationship, what I actually needed in a partner, or what I wanted my life and relationship to look like. I was self-aware but completely directionless. It's almost like I w[...]

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Why Do I Keep Ending Up in Situationships?

April 8, 2026

I see this every single day in my coaching practice. Where smart, beautiful, deeply loving people keep finding themselves in the same place: emotionally invested in someone who won't fully commit, stuck in a relationship with no label, no future, and no real foundation. A situationship. And the first thing I want you to hear me say is this: it is not a coincidence that this keeps happening to you. There is a reason. Actually, there are several, and the beautiful... empowering truth is that once you understand th[...]

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7 Signs of Emotional Intelligence in Dating

March 11, 2026

If you've been dating for a while and keep hitting the same walls: the communication breakdowns, the people who seem great at first but can't handle conflict, the relationships that start hot and fizzle fast. I want you to consider something: the missing piece might not be finding the right person. It might be emotional intelligence. EQ, or emotional intelligence, is the ability to understand and manage your own emotions while also being attuned to the emotions of others. And in dating, it's everything. It's wha[...]