How to Start a Good Online Dating Conversation
Are you exhausted from sending out countless messages on dating apps, only to receive no response? Starting a conversation with someone you’re interested in can be equally exciting and nerve-wracking. It’s tough to know how to approach someone you’ve never met before. But don’t worry, I’ve got you covered! In this blog post, I’ll share some tips on how to start an online dating conversation that will increase your chances of getting a response.
1. Be confident:
The first and most important step to starting an online dating conversation is confidence. Remember that the person on the other end is human, just like you, and probably just as nervous. One of the best ways to show confidence is by being yourself. Avoid using pick-up lines, cheesy introductions, and over-the-top compliments.
Instead, steer the conversation towards something that you find interesting about them. Focus on giving compliments about what you read. For example, “Wow you have traveled to 3 countries this year? Impressive! Stay away from compliments about a person’s looks like… you are so beautiful or so sexy.
2. Make it personal:
Nothing feels better than when someone shows interest in you or your life. When starting a conversation online, try to make it personal. Look through their profile, find something that you can connect with, and ask questions about it. For instance, if they have a picture of their pet, you could ask about the pet’s name and breed.
3. Use humor:
Humor is a great way to start a conversation. It shows that you don’t take yourself too seriously and that you’re easy-going. Just be mindful to keep it light and tasteful. You don’t want to unknowingly offend someone.
Games are a fun way to start conversations. For example, play “Two Truths and a Lie” or “This or That”. This will start the conversation with a little humor and let you get to know their personality as well.
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4. Ask open-ended questions:
Asking open-ended questions that start with what, how, and why, is a good way to keep the conversation flowing. Questions that can be answered with a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’ don’t add much value to the conversation.
They also make it harder to learn more about the person. Ask questions that require a more detailed answer such as “What’s your favorite type of food? or Where was your favorite place to travel?”.
5. Use their username in the message:
Using a person’s username in your message is a subtle way to make them feel special. It shows that you’re addressing them directly and not sending out mass messages. It’s a small gesture, but it can work wonders in making a good first impression.
6. Follow up:
The key to a great conversation is follow-up. If you’re enjoying the conversation, try to keep it going by asking more questions. However, if it’s not going as well as you hoped, that’s okay too! Not everyone will be a perfect match. Be respectful, thank them for the chat, and move on to the next.
Starting an online dating conversation can seem challenging, but it doesn’t have to be. By following these tips, you can increase your chances of getting a response from someone you’re interested in. If you’re struggling with online dating, my How to Conquer Online Dating course can help here.