Three Ways to Get Something Good Out of a Bad Date
We have all been on bad dates before. Maybe it was bad because he talked too much or too little, or maybe there was no chemistry or attraction. Whatever it is, if you go on enough dates you are bound to hit a few bumps in the road and when you do, the best thing to do is be prepared for it.
The bottom line is if your goal is to find that special someone you have to keep your eye on the prize. Dating can sometimes be daunting and tiresome, but that doesn’t mean the process can’t be a good one even when things don’t seem that way. So the question I would like to answer is how do you turn a bad date into a good one?
1) A Positive Attitude is Sexy
This is the key to the entire dating process, not just bad dates. Being a happy single and finding the positive even in seemingly low points not only will make your life better, but actually it will get you closer to finding that guy you want and deserve.
Studies have shown that people are drawn to others that are happy. If you can practice maintaining this positive attitude not only are you teaching others to do the same, but you may calm the nerves of your date and flip a bad date into a good one.
2) Switch Up the Venue
Most dates hinge on the conversation. If you notice your date is getting a little nervous, then suggest switching to a venue where you can do more fun activities. Maybe you were planning to go to dinner, instead maybe suggest places like Dave & Busters or a bowling alley.
Dates can be much more fun when you do something rather than just sitting around and just talking. At the end of the day, they key is to have fun, even if you didn’t connect with your date romantically, you just opened the door to a new friend and you never know who they can introduce you to!
3) Every Date Has Learning Takeaways
To be a good dater it’s as important to learn about yourself and the world as it is about your partners. And you can learn something on every date you go on, even the bad ones… especially the bad ones. Maybe your takeaway comes from things your date tells you from his or her life experiences or career. Maybe your takeaway comes from you figuring out more things you require in a potential mate.
Maybe there were signs that you picked up on before the date on the phone, online, etc. that if you had paid attention to could have told you this was going to be a bad one. Whatever it is you should file this information and leave the date knowing you are smarter and a better dater then before.
Remember, if your goal is to find that special someone in your life, then it might take some dating practice. So remember if as the old saying goes “Practice makes perfect”, then even on a bad date, you know exactly where you are headed!
If you’re struggling with getting to that second date or even getting the courage to get out and meet someone, I’m here to help. Let’s talk, just book a Free Relationship Readiness Review with me here and we can talk about your challenges and what you can do today to change your results.