10 Relationship Red Flags You Should NEVER Ignore

It’s not always easy to spot a bad relationship early on. Sometimes, we convince ourselves that things will get better, or that the person we’re with is just going through a tough time. There are certain red flags that you should watch out for if you want to protect yourself from getting hurt.

As a Dating Coach, I’ve seen my fair share of red flags, so today we will discuss 10 of the most common red flags to look out for in a relationship. No matter how much chemistry you have with a partner, these are red flags you can not ignore. If you see any of these signs, it might be time to walk away!

They are Overly Controlling or Possessive  

If your partner is setting limits on which friends you can and cannot see, or trying to control how much time you get to yourself, that could be a sign that something is not okay. It’s normal for couples to want to spend a lot of time together but it’s also important to respect each other’s space and independence.

In healthy relationships, neither person should try to manipulate the other into giving up things they like or who they choose to spend their time with. It is vital that both people in a relationship feel secure, respected and free of any type of control.

They Lack Being Emotionally Available 

 

At the heart of any healthy relationship is a meaningful connection between two people. When one partner is not willing to share feelings or open up emotionally, it can create a sense of confusion and lack of direction for their partner. They are unable to truly understand where the relationship stands and what the future may hold for them.

 

Without vulnerability it is hard to create an emotional bond. Vulnerability requires two people to share their truths and their fears with each other. This creates a deeper connection in a committed environment. Knowing how your significant other truly feels is instrumental to conflict resolution and a happy secure relationship.

They are Verbally Abusive or Any Type of Abuse

It can be difficult to deal with someone who is verbally abusive, as it feels like you are constantly on the receiving end of criticism. It’s natural to feel overwhelmed and frustrated in the face of such behaviour. Remember that verbal abuse is never okay.

No matter what the situation, you always have the right to take a stand against name-calling, insults or belittling behaviour. Taking back control and reclaiming your power means feeling secure enough to call out abusive behaviour and actively assert your boundaries – even if this means taking a step back from the relationship altogether.

They are Too Jealous 

Healthy relationships involve being comfortable with your significant other having their own life outside the relationship. If your partner is constantly questioning you or trying to control where you go, this could be a sign that they are too jealous for comfort.

If your partner’s jealousy has reached the point where it is causing tension and stress, it is a major red flag. Trying to control who your partner talks to and where they go can lead to feelings of suffocation and mistrust, which are not strong foundations for any relationship.

At this point, you are wondering if you should even keep seeing them at this point? Check out this video for the answer!

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They Don’t Respect your Boundaries 

It’s no secret that setting healthy boundaries is one of the most important factors for a successful relationship. When one partner is continually crossing the other’s boundaries, it can be very difficult to maintain the trust and respect that the relationship requires.

Respect for each other’s boundaries shows consideration and understanding, which are essential components of a thriving relationship. If a partner does not respect your limits for yourself or for them, it is often time to re-evaluate if this person fits into your life. When someone consistently disregards your boundaries, they may not be ready or able to meet you where you need them to be.

They Have a History of Cheating

Trust is the backbone of any relationship and without it, the structure simply won’t hold up. If your partner has a history of cheating, it can be a difficult obstacle to overcome.

It’s important to consider whether this is something that you’re willing to deal with. A lack of trust can have serious consequences on any relationship.

They are Unreliable

We’ve all been there – our partner is always saying they’ll do something and then bailing at the last minute. Constantly flaking on plans or failing to show up for important occasions isn’t a sign of someone you can trust in a relationship.

It’s understandable that life gets busy, but reliability and dependability are two essential components of any healthy relationship. A commitment to being reliable when it matters should be an integral part of any relationship. Without it, your partnership won’t stand the test of time.

They Have a Drug or Alcohol Addiction Problem

It can be heartbreaking to date someone who has a drug or alcohol addiction. Not only can this be incredibly destructive for both people in a relationship, but substance abuse can have serious implications that threaten the health and longevity of any relationship.

If you suspect that your date is dealing with an addiction, look out for warning signs such as avoiding conversations, making up excuses to not meet up, or excessive drinking and using drugs. It is important to remain empathetic and supportive during this difficult time, while also taking care of yourself emotionally and mentally.

Remember that it is never easy having to deal with an addiction, so do not be too hard on yourself if you need to take some time away from the situation until it is safe to move forward with the relationship again.

Your Partner Doesn’t Support You

When it comes to relationships, having the support of your partner is crucial in maintaining a healthy and happy connection. A lack of support from a partner might indicate that it’s time to find a better fit, someone who wants you to succeed just as much as you do.

If you feel like your date isn’t interested in being part of the cheerleading squad for your goals, then it may be in both of your best interests to end the relationship amicably and go on the search for somebody new.

Your Partner is Dismissive of Your Feelings

When we’re in a relationship with someone, it’s important that they take your feelings into consideration. When we date someone, they must attempt to understand our feelings and emotions.

Feelings that come with a relationship are complex. Suppose a partner fails to consider them during disagreements or have tough conversations, and they dismiss or invalidate your feelings. In that case, this could indicate that they don’t have your best interests at heart.

While we all have different ways of expressing ourselves, it’s crucial for a partner to stay open-minded and be respectful of our feelings. Validating one another can help create and strengthen the bond between two people.

If you think that any of these red flags are present in your current or past relationship, it might be time for us to speak. Remember you deserve better than this and I can help you re-evaluate if the relationship is truly right for you.

Dating should always be an enjoyable experience, not one filled with doubts and anxiety! You deserve someone who respects you and makes you feel loved and appreciated. Don’t settle for anything less!

If you struggle with creating important boundaries for yourself and keep running into these red flags, I can help you break the cycle and find lasting love. Schedule a Free Relationship Readiness Review with me here.