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Romance Scammers: How to Avoid Them

March 27, 2021

There’s no question that as long as there’s been love and romance there’s been those who will take advantage of another’s heart in an attempt to scam them. These romance scams occur when someone adopts a fake or partially fake identity or persona to gain a victim’s affection and trust. The scammer then uses this illusion of a romantic relationship to manipulate and/or steal from the victim. It’s an unfortunate aspect of the dating landscape that’s sadly not only prevalent today, but with the advent o[...]

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8 Signs: How to Spot an Emotionally Unavailable Partner

March 23, 2021

As we navigate the dating world, there are many things we look for in a potential partner. Things like looks, a sense of humor, honesty, and intelligence all come to mind. Although each of these is all great qualities to have in a partner, there's one quality not on that list that is missing that should negate the importance of any of them to you. I'm referring to whether or not your partner is emotionally available or not. In simplest terms, when you’re emotionally available you’re open to discussing you[...]

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Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners that cheat? How can I stop this?

March 1, 2021

Recently I opened my email box and found something unexpected and exciting. It was an email from one of my former clients, letting me know how happy he was and how in love he was with an incredible woman. (For privacy reasons I will refer to him by the pseudonym John.) In the email, John included a photo of himself cheek to cheek with his new love. The happy couple exuded happiness and joy in every way. The email made me tear up not just about John’s happiness and new relationship, but also about the incredibl[...]

11 Signs of Gaslighting in a Relationship + How You Can Stop It

February 24, 2021

My husband and I have been married for almost 8-years now and I’m very thankful for our relationship, but sometimes when I am coaching my clients I find my mind wandering back to my previous life as a struggling single. Most recently this happened when I was coaching a client who was working through some major issues she developed from a recent breakup with a boyfriend who was gaslighting her throughout her relationship. For those of you not familiar with the term “gaslighting”, it is a form[...]