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How to Go from Small Talk to Real Talk

Taking a conversation from the surface to a deeper level can be challenging for anyone. Timing, how much you share, what you share, and how you share your story are all factors that help determine how deep of a connection you make with another person, whether it is romantic or platonic.

Ignoring these factors can lead to oversharing, under-sharing, and poorly executed conversations – situations that we are all familiar with. That’s because conversations, especially deeper ones that create true connections, take courage.

To truly get to know someone and invite them to know you, both parties must be vulnerable, which is always a risk because being vulnerable means exposing oneself to the possibility of being hurt.

But without great risk, there is no great reward – like love and friendship. Are you ready to take the plunge and learn the art of going from small talk to real talk?

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