What Martha Stewart Can Teach Us About Dating…
The universe is connecting me to Martha Stewart for some reason, I was recently interviewed by MarthaStewartWeddings.com and had the amazing opportunity to experience the Speakers LA event and see the famed businesswoman, queen of home crafts and decor, and television personality Martha Stewart speak. I have watched the world of Martha Stewart from afar all these years much like everyone else. At various times I have looked at her life with a myriad of feelings, including awe, wonder, some disdain confusion, and respect.
Ms. Stewart has been in the public eye for almost 5 decades now, but it is her recent foray into dating that has me writing this article. Martha Stewart signed up for Match.com and decided at the ripe, young age of 70 to get online dating. While most women her age look at Internet dating as some kind of torture chamber, but Ms. Stewart instead of viewing it as negative, she’s seizing the opportunity. She’s a woman of resilience and that’s why I’m going to share with you 5 Things Martha Stewart can teach all of us about Dating!
She Doesn’t Live in the Past
Far too many daters out there get so lost in the fog of dating past carrying their old baggage or limiting beliefs into dating and never find themselves in a positive dating situation. Martha Stewart’s entire world came crashing down when authorities arrested her in regards to her financial transactions, but she did her time and focused on moving forward. And as a testament to her resilience. Martha said “My personal legal problem could have ruined me and my company. It didn’t.”
Instead, she became stronger, learned her life lessons, and she changed her life for the better. Many singles can learn from her, just because your last relationship or date was a tragedy, it shouldn’t phase you just keep focusing forward to reach your goal.
She is Unconventional, Conventional
A while back, I watched Martha on the Justin Bieber Roast on Comedy Central and I was blown away. For decades, she has been the poster-child for womanly perfection, wholesomeness, and elegance, but here she was on the stage with the likes of
Snoop Dog making jokes about threesomes and making shanks in prison. I loved it. It was a whole new Martha. Many women out there are afraid to show a prospective mate their down and dirty side in fear of losing them. Most men love a woman who is fun, open, and at times even sometimes crass.
Sure, you can be a conventional girl with conventional morals and ideas, but that doesn’t mean you can’t every once in a while let that your hair down and let that unconventional side come out for some fun. Martha did and it was awesome. It’s knowing the time and place to reveal this side of you that is most important… not the fact that this side of you exists. So take it from Martha, don’t worry about every word you say or being a perfect lady for your date, because in the end, it’s about being authentic. The person should like you for the good, the bad, the everything. And if your date doesn’t, someone will.
She Doesn’t Let Society Define Her, But She Still Listens
At 74 years old most people would say that is far too old to online date, but like so many other seniors out there, Martha has decided to let love lead the way. I am a big believer that the best and quickest way to find a love connection is to give yourself as many dating opportunities as possible. Does it really matter if you meet the man of your dreams online or through a friend? I mean, he is the man of your dreams and you are going to be happy, what difference does it make how you meet him?
Besides, some studies show that around 25% of all couples in a committed relationship today met online. And I am happy to say that I am one of those lucky 25-percenters as I met my husband online and I could not be happier. The point is that this is not 1961 when Martha married her ex-husband. Times of change, dating has changed, and clearly so has Martha in a good way.
She Leans into the Discomfort
I promise you, like most women Martha Stewart would pay an arm and a leg to skip the online dating world and go right into to the love connection, but because she is human like the rest of us, she cannot. Sure, maybe part of this is a marketing stunt for Martha’s interests and match.com’s, but I have no doubt that Martha will enter into this with some sense of “what if”. Finding love takes time, dedication, and most importantly the will to achieve it and Martha has taken steps to do just that by taking the leap and setting up her own online dating profile. Go Martha!
She’s Authentic About Her Experience
Many singles cringe at the thought of being revealing their true selves in dating situations. Some hide the fact they love comic books, or that they’re into pirates. But what most singles don’t realize, that’s exactly what sets you apart from the rest of the pack. These quirky things make you truly unique and interesting. After the public arrest and all of Martha’s legal battles, she didn’t run away from her past and hide in a hole.
Nope, she didn’t do any of that. She stood tall and was authentic about her arrest. Because she doesn’t make a big deal out of it, no one else does either. Martha fans connected even more with her because she’s real and more refreshing instead of just a face behind the brand. She’s human with really interesting stories and a sign of a strong woman that can get through anything.
So before you start to mold yourself into what your date likes, take a lesson from Ms. Stewart and start owning your quirkiness, it makes you uniquely different, and really interesting in a good way!
It was an unforgettable experience learning about Martha’s life to success at the Speakers LA event. Martha and I do have one major thing in common; we both love to help change people’s lives for the better. I hope you got some takeaways from what Martha can teach you about having resilience when it comes to life and dating.