5 Green Flag Signs That Make Them Your Forever Match

There are so many articles about red flags and toxic relationships to avoid. As a Relationship Coach, when I ask singles, “What do want in a partner?” They often share a list of all the things they DON’T want in a relationship. That tells me most singles may have very little idea of what they DO want and what a GOOD relationship looks like. This is why it is important to arm you with this knowledge so that you can have the best results when it comes to finding love. Today I am going to share with you 5 Green Flag Signs That Make Them Your Forever Match.

Green Flag Sign #1: Their Actions Match their Words. 

Their word is their bond, not just in the early stages of dating but throughout the relationship. They do not overpromise and under-deliver. Instead, they are transparent about what they can actually promise. When they cannot commit, they are willing, to be honest even if feelings get hurt.

Green Flag Sign #2: They Take Accountability for Their Actions

In every relationship, there will be a time, where one or the other partner will make a mistake. How they deal with that mistake will tell you whether they belong in your life or not. A green flag sign is they acknowledge their mistake, apologize, and change their behavior. Apologizing without follow-through is emotional manipulation. Make sure you look out for follow-through after the apology.

Green Flag Sign #3: They Honor Boundaries

We all are built with different perspectives and values. In a situation where there is relationship conflict, they communicate their boundaries or actively listen to yours without judgment. There is no passive-aggressive behavior or game playing to get their way. They want to see you happy so they make an effort to meet your needs and steer away from any belittling of your requests.

Green Flag Sign #4: They Reciprocate Efforts

In a relationship, they are giving as much as receiving. They understand the balance of being thoughtful and considerate of others outside of themselves. When a person does something nice for them, they know how to thank them and reciprocate efforts to give back. However, they give without attachment. They give because making you happy brings them joy; they do not use gifts as a way of controlling or manipulating you.

Green Flag Sign #5: They are Vulnerable Through Conflict

Relationships are fun and playful in the early stages but when conflict arises that is when it is important to pay attention to this green flag. They are expressive about their feelings and are truthful about what they want. They understand how to communicate in a productive and healthy way. Their goal is not to win but instead to work together, have an open discussion to a resolution. Even when feelings are hurt, they may react poorly but will come back and take accountability for their bad reaction. They focus on moving forward together rather than dwelling on the past and looking for faults.

There are plenty more Green Flag Signs that make a great relationship but today at least I armed you with five. The goal here is to get you thinking about what you DO want in a relationship and use the law of attraction to draw in a positive person you are looking out for in the world.

Hopefully, the next step is making a commitment to each other. But before you move in together, it is important to arm yourself with strategies that will help you have the most successful co-habitation. Redfin reached out to experts, including me, from across the country from New York, NY to San Francisco, CA, to be featured in their article on how small details about changing your home to fit another person may help foster a better relationship. You can read the article here.