Top 4 Things That Make Him Marriage Material
Many of us date without really understanding what makes a great partner. After the initial honeymoon phase has passed, what is left when it’s over? There are four key attributes to help you know if he is a possible keeper for life:
#1 – His Actions Match His Words.
This tops as #1 of all the attributes to have in a partner. In marriage, it’s important that you can rely on your husband to follow through with his promises. If he is not displaying this characteristic in the early stages of your relationship, how will he do the same in a marriage?
Pay attention to how he commits with his promises: the time he says he will call you, the time arrives for your date, and the trips he promises to take with you. If his actions match the words, it’s a good indication throughout your relationship he will be someone you can rely and trust.
#2 – He Loves and Respects You.
When a man is truly in love with you, he will celebrate the uniqueness of your body type, your quirky personality, and everything else you bring to the table. The things that you may consider to be flaws, he finds absolutely sexy.
He doesn’t want you to change or is condescending to you, instead respects you and every facet of your life. He is the person you can call your best friend, let your guard down, and be your authentic self!
#3 – His values are similar to yours.
Marriage is fun and way less drama when your partner has similar core values as you do. Here’s some hard facts based on six years of research, Dr. Steven Riess, author of “Normal Personality: A New Way of Thinking About People,” there are a core of 16 values that show a motivational spectrum and how we interact with each other in a relationship.
“The 16 core values are: acceptance, curiosity, social contact, eating, family, honor, idealism, independence, order, physical activity, power, romance, saving, status, tranquility, and vengeance.” Riess says that having more than five or six differing values will most likely create a relationship with constant bickering. The opposite also applies; if you have mostly common values, you’ll experience a stronger bond in your relationship and mutual respect.
#4 – He communicates well and can express himself.
You’ve heard the phrase communication is key. Strong communication are the building blocks to a great relationship that will lead to a great marriage. It’s important for you to stay vigilant in the beginning of a relationship, pay attention to how he resolves conflicts with his friends, strangers, work peers, family, and with you.
Especially when it comes to tough conversations, if he is able to express himself in a healthy manner, and resolve disagreements maturely, your relationship will have a much higher survival rate!
