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20 Signs You Might be Self-Sabotaging Your Relationship

What is self-sabotage in relationships and why do people do it? Self-sabotage is when a person, consciously or subconsciously, engages in acts that destroy, ruin, or diminish the relationships they are in. In essence, the obstacles in the relationship are self-created. Why people sabotage relationships is a little more complex. For some, it could be a deep fear of intimacy, vulnerability, or abandonment, for others it may be a repeating of old patterns or imposter syndrome. Discovering why is at the root of ending self-sabotaging behavior, which can take many forms.

For those who are wondering if you or someone you love is self-sabotaging relationships, I’m going to review twenty self-sabotaging behaviors that ruin relationships. I personally struggled with these when I was a single dater, now as a Dating Coach, I want to help create a roadmap for anyone who’s wondering what self-sabotaging looks like so that they can overcome their sabotaging behavior and strive to have healthy, thriving relationships.

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