90 Day Fiancé’s Colt Johnson Tries Our Speed Dating Event

Let’s face it, singles have been struggling with ways to meet each other during this pandemic, and online dating is not always the easiest to navigate to find love. Now that the world is slowly opening up again. One thing that we all need and want more than ever is human connection.

Speed Dating has always been a great way to have 6-minute dates and connect with many potential partners in a single night.

The matchmaking process of speed dating is in almost every major city around the world, yet it is fairly new to the dating scene. Most attribute speed dating’s arrival to a Los Angeles rabbi who launched a 10-minute “speed dating” event at a coffee shop for single members of the Jewish community in 1998.

Today, there are hundreds of speed dating companies that have matched thousands of singles and it’s possible you could be next.

My Conscious Dating Programs teaches that there’s no wrong way to meet your forever partner as long as you do the work and put yourself out there to meet them.

So for those of you who have stayed away and never participated in a speed dating event, it’s not only a fun way to connect with fellow singles but also a powerful relationship-building skill tool that if taken seriously can help launch your dating life into the next stratosphere.

Over the past year, I’ve been fortunate enough to be working with one of the world’s premier speed dating companies, Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

Pre-Dating’s speed dating events are designed for busy single professionals.

These are singles who want to inject something new into your dating life to help land that forever partner you want and deserve.

On the surface, speed dating is a pretty straightforward process. A group of singles (around 20 or more) gather at a venue (often inside a bar or restaurant) and have six-minute mini-dates with each of the eligible people at the event.

At the end of the event, everyone fills out a simple matchmaking form, which indicates who they wish to see again. The next day those singles who are matched up are sent each other’s contact information and let the dating begin.

It has gain so much popularity that 90 Day Fiance’s Colt Johnson joined in on the fun.

He came to one of our Pre-Dating Speed Dating events at the Vegas Valley Winery and went on several dates in the spin-off show called 90 Day: Single Life, airing on Discovery Plus this Sunday.

Watch a clip of him going on dates below!

Even though there are many love connections that happen at these events, sometimes the spark can fizzle quickly if singles make a bad impression. In the clip, you can see Colt and his date awkwardly try to connect. That is why it is so important to arm yourself with skills to make a good impression. You only have six minutes to make that connection, what you say in that time really matters.

Here are some of my best dating tips to help you maximize your chances for speed dating success (making sure the people you like, like you back). To do this there are some things you may want to understand before you walk through the event’s door.

Dress to Impress

Plan to wear the colors and the styles of clothing that look best on you. Make-up, hair, and the scent you put on should also be considered because remember you never get a second chance to make a first impression. For what it’s worth studies found that men do best wearing blue, women in red, and the most attractive scent for both sexes, vanilla.

Temper Your Expectations

It is possible you go out on your first speed dating experience and not get as many matches as you like. It is best to go into these events without attachment to the number of matches you get. Try to focus on learning about the speed dating process, your fellow singles, and most importantly about you.

Just know that if a love connection does not happen at the first event, it might happen at the next one or the next one. In reality, it only takes one match to change your life forever so being a determined and patient single is your best bet for making that happen.

Don’t Rush the Process

This may seem in contradiction to the short six-minute min-dates, but it’s super important that you don’t just sit down and start blasting off questions or jumping into your most interesting life-story. Many dating studies have found that most people make their choice of whether or not they want to date someone within the first 30-seconds.

So those first 30 ticks of the clock need to be your best. That means you want to make sure you engage your fellow speed dater in a polite, relaxed, and pleasant manner that will allow for the conversation to grow naturally.

Be Positive

“Positivity” is a proven method for attracting quality partners. Those who speak with positive language (“I like”, “It’s so beautiful”) and display positive body language (smile, uncrossed arms) are much more likely to attract someone than those who present the opposite behaviors.

At the same time, by being positive you are implementing the best part of the “Law of Attraction”, which stipulates that you attract the person who mirrors you in qualities and values. Simply, be positive, attract positive; be negative, attract negative. (Article continued below).

(Photo taken at Vegas Valley Winery)

Engage with Questions and Understanding

So many singles fall into the trap of talking too much during a date. Speed dates are no exception. No matter how good-looking you are or funny you may be if you sit down on a speed date and eat up the six-minutes all by yourself you’ll almost certainly be disappointed when the matching phase comes.

The best course of action is to ask open-ended questions that allow you to learn about and engage with the person sitting across from you. Plan to go to the event with a few of those questions that appeal to you like, “Where do you see yourself in 5-years?” or “What’s the funniest thing that has ever happen to you?” With these targeted questions you will be able to understand the person better and dig a little deeper into what makes them tick.

Don’t Just Hear, Actively Listen

On the heels of asking questions make sure you bring with you the often-lost art of listening. Good listeners are almost always the most popular and successful speed daters.

Sure you want to talk too, but if you are an effective listener you will make the person across from you feel relaxed and show them there’s genuine interest coming from you. And when that happens a connection is not far behind.

Be Authentic

I completely understand that many singles feel the pressure to always portray themselves in the best possible light. The issue with this thinking is that it could conversely cause some to exaggerate or misrepresent themselves in order to garner favor.

This inauthenticity could work on some, but smart, quality singles will always pick up on it. And if they don’t pick up on it at the speed dating event they surely will down the road. No, the best course of action is to own your life and the choices you’ve made, warts and all.

Don’t be afraid to tell them about that time you got out of a shower, stood in front of your window and the Google Maps car drove by, or how you somehow don’t like pizza. This path of authenticity allows your fellow singles to see the real you right from the start and give you a chance to develop relationships that are built to last.

Keep Proper Eye Contact

Good eye contact may seem simple enough, but there are actual techniques, which can improve your chances of making a connection. The amount of eye contact you show should feel comfortable; if it makes you feel uneasy it is either too much or maybe even too little.

Don’t look around the room, behind you, behind them, or at your phone. And although we smile with our mouths we also use our eyes when we smile so keep that smile going where appropriate and your eyes will follow.

Don’t Drink too Much

Alcohol can help you relax, sure, but the more you drink the more you risk the possibility that you could do or say something, which will negatively affect your chances of gaining matches. Rule of thumb for speed dating, two drinks max.

Close Like You Open

Match decisions may be made well before the six-minutes are up, but you always want to finish strong by staying positive, polite, and by showing genuine interest. This especially goes for those people where you feel no connection and have no interest. That’s because attendees sometimes come to the events with family or friends and could compare notes.

A bad mark from someone they trust could tip the scales away from that match you really wanted. Plus, if you plan to attend another speed dating event again, who knows, after another six-minutes a match might occur. Stranger things have happened.

It was a fun experience meeting Colt and watching him go on dates. I wish him much luck in love. We would love to see you at our next speed dating event, to find speed dating events near you visit Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

To learn more about my Conscious Dating Programs and ways to jumpstart your dating life visit Amie The Dating Coach.