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20 Signs You Might be Self-Sabotaging Your Relationship

What is self-sabotage in relationships and why do people do it? Self-sabotage is when a person, consciously or subconsciously, engages in acts that destroy, ruin, or diminish the relationships they are in. In essence, the obstacles in the relationship are self-created. Why people sabotage relationships is a little more complex. For some, it could be a deep fear of intimacy, vulnerability, or abandonment, for others it may be a repeating of old patterns or imposter syndrome. Discovering why is at the root of ending self-sabotaging behavior, which can take many forms.

For those who are wondering if you or someone you love is self-sabotaging relationships, I’m going to review twenty self-sabotaging behaviors that ruin relationships. I personally struggled with these when I was a single dater, now as a Dating Coach, I want to help create a roadmap for anyone who’s wondering what self-sabotaging looks like so that they can overcome their sabotaging behavior and strive to have healthy, thriving relationships.

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Real love. I’m talking about lasting love… meets you. It doesn’t make you beg for it.

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The most attractive thing you will ever do is decide you are no longer available for disrespect! 💌 Save these as a reminder!

Real love. I’m talking about lasting love… meets you. It doesn’t make you beg for it.

So if you’re sitting here reading this wondering why you keep attracting the same kind of person, I want you to ask yourself one honest question: What am I still available for that I know I shouldn’t be?

Because the most powerful thing you will ever do for your love life isn’t downloading another dating app or going on another date.

It’s deciding firmly, unapologetically, and with full self respect that you are no longer available for less effort, lazy love, confusion, or anything that makes you question your worth.

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Real love. I’m talking about lasting love… meets you. It doesn’t make you beg for it.

So if you’re sitting here reading this wondering why you keep attracting the same kind of person, I want you to ask yourself one honest question: What am I still available for that I know I shouldn’t be?

Because the most powerful thing you will ever do for your love life isn’t downloading another dating app or going on another date.

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Because the most powerful thing you will ever do for your love life isn’t downloading another dating app or going on another date.

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