Top 3 Limiting Beliefs that Hold You Back From Love!
When you are not in the right frame of mind dating can be tough. There are certain limiting beliefs that can hold you back from the love you deserve. Only YOU can challenge these limiting beliefs and become The Chooser of what makes you happy. Here are the top 3 limiting beliefs and strategies to manage them:
Limiting Belief #1: “Getting married will complete me.”
I’m sure many of you have heard it again and again, “When are you getting married” or “You are too picky and should just settle, you are getting too old!” This sudden, unnecessary pressure to jump into a relationship and get married can cause us to run blindly past red flags in our relationships.
It’s important to slow down and ask… “Why is the divorce rate so high?”
Many people are getting married because of society’s pressures “next step” before understanding what they require in a relationship to be happy. The worst is when I’ve heard 
someone say, “You’re in your ’40s and you’ve never been married, what’s wrong with you?” Um… when did being divorced a few times become better than being single and waiting for the right one?
I say, throw all of society’s judgments and pressures out the window. Realize that being single is not a curse; instead of waiting until you find the right relationship you deserve. You are unique and there is no other individual like you. Society has no right to make decisions for you because they are NOT you!
Becoming the chooser starts with realizing that you have a choice to challenge society’s or any outside influences, and start deciding what works for only you. No matter what everyone else says, ultimately only YOU know what will make you happy.
Limiting Belief #2: “I attract all the wrong people.”
Here is a common statement from many singles, “I attract all the wrong people.” Newsflash…you attract the people that you feel most comfortable with and who understand you. So, if you are unhappy in your life, you will most likely cozy up to someone in the same boat.
Here is the good news, you don’t have to be stuck in a mindset all your life. You can send out an SOS and save yourself by realizing that, “Like attracts like.”
In order to attract a catch, you need to start being a catch. If you want someone athletic, then start going to the gym. If you like someone financially stable, you better start looking at your own finances. It is really simple, “Be an example of whom you want to attract.”
Limiting Belief #3: “This is who I am, people have to accept me.”
“This is who I am, people have to accept me.” I have heard this statement over and over. I agree that being your authentic self is important. However, what if being yourself sometimes prevents you from a healthy relationship? How will you recognize your flaws?
The most genuine relationships spawn from couples having the ability to self-reflect and confess there is room for improvement in their relationship. It can be very challenging facing, especially navigating around uncharted areas of feelings. But, the minute you can swallow this idea comfortably, you acknowledge that there can be room for progress. This is when you truly can begin a genuine relationship with yourself.
Remember, “Like attracts like.” If you want an authentic relationship with a partner, it starts with the relationship with self.
